Chronically Aggressive Individuals
- Easily frustrated, limited or poor impulse control
- Frequently express anger or hostility
- Resents authority, defiant with supervisors.
- May express hostility through “passive-aggressive” behavior
- Believes violence and/or aggression are legitimate responses to various interpersonal problems in life (i.e., if someone provokes you, you fight back)
- Although they might never admit it, pleasure or reinforcement is derived from the expression of anger (i.e., it feels good to blow someone off; it makes you feel alive; it gives you a sense of power)
- Often display the characteristics of a “stimulus seeker” - they engage in bold, fearless, or reckless behavior and are prone towards substance abuse
- Most typically, violence occurs in a situational context: an offense, fight, or disagreement
- Sometimes just get carried away in a particular situation (domestic violence, child battering)
- Less likely to engage in acts of unexpected “explosive” violence
- Rarely display or express anger - they don’t cuss or yell, and may be offended by such
- Emotionally rigid and inflexible: appear to be polite, serious, and sober, rarely “loose” or jocular
- Cognitively rigid and inflexible: very strict about interpreting rules; usually go for the letter, rather than the spirit of the law
- Morally righteous and upstanding: see themselves as “good people”
- Often judgmental: see others as “not such good people”
- Non-assertive or passive; their passivity causes others to take advantage of them
- Anger builds up like in a pressure cooker, before they explode
- After the violence, people say that they never expected it, “he always seemed like such a nice guy; he was always so quiet”
- Feel that people walk on them and that they are never treated fairly
- When they are passed over, there is always someone else to blame
- Things are easier for everyone else: other people get more and have more advantages.
- They do not accept criticism well
- In response to reprimands, they develop grudges, which are sometimes deeply held
- They are often whiners and complainers, as a matter of attitude
- They wallow in their victimization and are psychologically impotent
- Violence occurs because they hold grudges and are “impotent” to deal with their anger in other ways
- Aggression occurs in response to a single, massive assault on their identity
- Something happens that is potently offensive, absolutely intolerable, and which strips them of all sense of personal power
- The essence of their existence (or their manhood) will be destroyed if they do not respond
- Violence is predictable & preventable
- Immature and narcissistic individuals who demand or crave attention and affection
- Absolutely cannot stand to be deprived of desired gratifications, like a baby who cries because mother removes the breast
- When deprived of love, they continue crying: repeated phone calls, following the object of their obsession, etc.
- As frustration continues, they escalate: “dead flowers”, punctured tires, suicide gestures
- Violence because: “if I can’t have her, nobody can.” ... or: “if she won’t have me, she won’t have anything.”
- Jealous Type: Delusionally believes their lover is unfaithful
- Persecuted Type: Delusionally believes that people are out to get him
- Typically engage in behaviors which make their paranoid beliefs come true
- Delusions may reach the point at which the person is grossly out of contact with reality (may be insane).
- Rare: does not understand the nature and quality of their actions.
- More typical: fundamental misperceptions of reality, incapable of rational behavior, delusional beliefs deprive them of the ability to know that their behavior is wrong, beliefs and perceptions are incongruent with reality.
- Twisted, psychotic beliefs about what is right, what is wrong, and what is necessary.
- A combination of most of the above (except for insane): angry, hostile, jealous, resentful, impotent, and disturbed individuals, who are socially isolated, socially inadequate, and who feel worthless
- May be seeking attention
- May be seeking revenge
Copyright, Paul G. Mattiuzzi, Ph.D.